On fuckbuddies

What good is ex boyfriends if not a casual lay now and then. Because, personally, I dont like adding another number to the total amount of guys I have had sex with. So why not just go back to someone you already counted. Now, the counting of people I slept with is not really applicable nowadays since i havn´t kept count for several years. But still, it is a psychological concern. Although be careful with how long time has passed since you last saw this ex of yours. i did the mistake of catching up with an old ex of mine. Dressing up to the teeth with high expectations living on memories from our time together. i agreed to meet at his house far away from home, where he was to prepare dinner including alcoholic beverage. So, between the lines I agreed to sex. The moment he opened the door I looked around for another house because I was determined i had knocked on the wrong door. The man who opened was 15 kilo heavier, lost his hair and was just not what i expected. However, after a couple bottles of wine i could go through with what i came for.  Mission completed!

Fuck buddies is another concept that troubles me. Well, not so much the concept as oppose to the reality of the concept. the unwritten contract between two fuck buddies is that there are no strings attached more than sex. The best way to get it to work is to strictly keep it to sex. As soon as you start to hang out, watch movies , eat dinners, and talk more personally you got problems. It doesn´t have to mean that you get feelings for the person, but you get used to the person, and might feel some additional connection to that person. All of the sudden it is not ok, to see this fuck buddy with other girls. So the next step is to say "it is ok if we are not together, just that you don´t sleep with other women" and all of the sudden you are trapped in a relationship that might as well be an official one. Been there, done that and it didn´t turn out the way I wanted it to. The question is, has there been anyone that has had a successful casual sex relationship without getting hurt or hurting someone Else's feeling? Can a casual sex relationship result in a win win situation?