On fuckbuddies

What good is ex boyfriends if not a casual lay now and then. Because, personally, I dont like adding another number to the total amount of guys I have had sex with. So why not just go back to someone you already counted. Now, the counting of people I slept with is not really applicable nowadays since i havn´t kept count for several years. But still, it is a psychological concern. Although be careful with how long time has passed since you last saw this ex of yours. i did the mistake of catching up with an old ex of mine. Dressing up to the teeth with high expectations living on memories from our time together. i agreed to meet at his house far away from home, where he was to prepare dinner including alcoholic beverage. So, between the lines I agreed to sex. The moment he opened the door I looked around for another house because I was determined i had knocked on the wrong door. The man who opened was 15 kilo heavier, lost his hair and was just not what i expected. However, after a couple bottles of wine i could go through with what i came for.  Mission completed!

Fuck buddies is another concept that troubles me. Well, not so much the concept as oppose to the reality of the concept. the unwritten contract between two fuck buddies is that there are no strings attached more than sex. The best way to get it to work is to strictly keep it to sex. As soon as you start to hang out, watch movies , eat dinners, and talk more personally you got problems. It doesn´t have to mean that you get feelings for the person, but you get used to the person, and might feel some additional connection to that person. All of the sudden it is not ok, to see this fuck buddy with other girls. So the next step is to say "it is ok if we are not together, just that you don´t sleep with other women" and all of the sudden you are trapped in a relationship that might as well be an official one. Been there, done that and it didn´t turn out the way I wanted it to. The question is, has there been anyone that has had a successful casual sex relationship without getting hurt or hurting someone Else's feeling? Can a casual sex relationship result in a win win situation?   

On Facebook

Ok, I admit it; I am a Facebook addict. The most fun I have is of course all the attention I get on the application "Are you interested". I don´t know if you are familiar with it, but it sort of enables anyone to browse pictures of people that are enrolled in Facebook and then click yes or no depending on if they are interested or not. All you base your decision on is one picture. Shallow you think? Well shallow is my middle name. I find it interesting how I get a completely different audience depending on my profile picture. too much makeup means less clicks and more losers. A more innocent picture will get increased response of somewhat more handsome guys. The worst click i ever got, was an old fat man in his 60s with a little girl in his lap. Come on! As I would ever?! Just my luck... And it wasn´t just ONE click, it was several clicks including use of application gifts and mails. Why why why? Thank God for cyberspace and not needing to actually meet these people... Moreover, what are all these old people doing onFacebook anyway? I thought it was a site for college students keeping contact with their fellow students. This old man was retired even before the blogasphere era started. from now on; I am pro age limits on Facebook!  

Dating online

I have never been a big fan of dating sites online. I find them extremely boring and there are never anyone that seems interesting. However, a couple of days ago I was listening to a radio program that was discussing online dating. There was a new concept to the whole thing. People who knew singles could put them up on a particular site. Writing a fun summary on what they think about the person and all of the sudden all the cliche's with walks on the beach and candle light dinner disappears. I think the concepts is awesome. Not only will the summary reflect more on the true person but the people are actually HOT as these are normally people that wouldn´t care to put their profile on a regular dating site. The beauty of it is that you then can blame others for having your profile there. Of course a friend can´t just put anything out, it has to run through the person in question but still, it is a great idea. This is the only site I have heard of until now that is using this concept and unfortunately it is only in Swedish.

Thoughts on dating

I think Russell Kane summarizes it all when he explains how English people don´t date. That goes by the way for most European citizens. We don´t know how to date and then dating more than one person at a time couldn´t be more unethical. I have to say that my experience in dating is timid. I could calculate my dating experiences on one hand and they were all disaster. The last date I went on was with a German guy. Oh my god girls, do NOT accept a date after a couple of beers in a dark pub. Somehow, I found this man, who i actually don´t remember the name of, attractive until next day when i realized he was a looser. He invited me for a nice wine and dine evening, but 15 minutes in the conversation he says that he usually doesn´t ask girls out because he finds it too much of a hassle to talk them up in order to get them into bed. Therefore, he preferred to buy prostitute services. The appetizer hadn´t even arrived yet and I felt I just couldn´t leave right there. Honestly, who says something like that on the first date?! What the fuck! He then realized his mistake and said that girls usually found that he talked too much. I couldn't more than agree. I got away without leaving my number and haven´t seen him since. 

At least he was nice enough to pay for the date. That´s another thing with the European dating- Guys don´t pay!  And what is that all about? yes we are in an equality society but when it comes to certain things, guys still have a duty to perform. First dates should not even include split bills. I am all in for more open dating in Europe but someone should really put some time into developing an European dating etiquette handbook. Maybe I will once I graduate.

Motivating my blogging

I have always so much on my mind that I decided today to start a blog. That way I might get some feedback from the cyberspace. More importantly some answers to all those questions that keeps popping up. I have also decided that this might help me on my upcoming research paper. My choice of being relatively anonymous is because my thoughts and philosophies are not always for the eyes of my future employees or other shallow relationships I might face in the future. Have to manage my online reputation so to speak. Anyway, thanks for looking in. I am looking forward for some serious blogging.

So lets do this mother! Let´s blog shit! 

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